Miscarriage - most common reasons

In one of our previous blog posts, we have covered the topic of stillbirth, which you can read more about here. 

In this blog post, we will go through some useful information related to miscarriage, why it happens, and in the end, of course - send you support.

When you lose un unborn baby, you'll probably very lost, but also experience a burden of guilt. This is especially true for the mothers because they'll start asking themselves questions like:

-Did I do something that has caused the death of my unborn baby?

-Was there something I could do differently to escape this scenario?

-Will my future pregnancies be the same?

-Why doesn't anyone understand me? Why can't they understand that this unborn baby was still my child?

I promise I will answer all of these questions right here. When it comes to the first question, most of the times not even doctors know why a miscarriage has happened. Although the medicine claims that the most common reasons include being over 35 years of age, having long-term health issues and past miscarriages, or uterine and cervical problems, a lot of times there is really nothing you can do to stop the miscarriage. Some will say that the nature works that way - your baby won't be able to survive through the pregnancy if there is something wrong with the fetus.

Genetic conditions, together with addictions, such as smoking, drinking, and using illegal drugs can also cause a miscarriage, but as I've said above already - sometimes you will do everything right and it will still happen. After experiencing a miscarriage, you will carry a burden probably no one understands, sometimes not even your husband or a beloved partner. Besides that, you will also think that others blame you for not being able to save your baby - you will think that they feel like you haven't done something right. All these feelings and dilemmas are common within partners who have gone through losing a baby in the early pregnancy, but it is especially hard for the mothers. 

Some doctors claim that being obese can also higher your chances of having a miscarriage. Therefore, we are coming to our second question - if you think about what you can do to prevent a miscarriage from happening, it would be:

-Leading a healthy lifestyle and maintaining a healthy diet.

-Be closely monitored throughout the pregnancy.

-If you have long-term health conditions, put those under control. Your doctor will know the best how to do it.

-Hope for the best. Once again, I am telling you that you can do everything right, and still have a miscarriage, therefore it is crucial not to blame yourself. Not everything is always in our hands.

The last question is the one where mothers who have lost their babies in early pregnancies feel lost and alone. I understand why you feel that way - everybody will ask you why don't you simply start another pregnancy and get another baby, but you are grieving about that baby and it is completely fine.

Most often, mothers who have lost their children through miscarriages tell me that they spend their entire lives thinking about how would that child look like, behave, and live. In one of our previous blog posts, I have also written about the big dates and big triggers - this article can help you to get through the hardest days of your grieving process. 

Some parents take a step further and want to have their children with them forever - if you feel okay about reborn dolls, read this article as well. 

In the end, I also want to offer you a safe place where you can talk with other people who will understand you 100% - check out our forum and feel free to register and start a topic you want to talk about. 

Here is our art section too, where you can express your feelings in the most creative ways. Check out how other bereaved parents have expressed their deepest emotions.