It is very common for people who are in the grieving process to overthink, either about their past or their future.
I know that you are doing everything in your power to ”fix” your life as much as you can (and that is very praiseworthy) but I have to remind you about some things…
- You don’t have to solve everything – today. As an overthinker myself, I know how this goes very well. You try to ”fix” everything at once. It is really fine to remind yourself that not everything is an emergency and doesn’t require an immediate response. What helped me the most was writing my thoughts down and then thinking about priorities.
- Thinking about something won’t make it come true. For those who have negative overthinking thoughts, I just wanted to remind you that imagining a catastrophic scenario doesn’t mean it will come true.
- It’s not all yours to fix. People who overthink are usually very kind and want to help others all the time. Yet, we know very well that the takers don’t have any limits. Remind yourself that it’s not all yours to fix.
- You won’t fail just because you feel unsure about something. Try to have faith in yourself. Even if you don’t succeed without planning it to the detail ahead, it’s not such a big deal.
- You are capable of taking care of yourself, without preliminary preparation. Remind yourself of all those previous situations where you succeeded just by following your instinct.
- It is fine to let thoughts just pass. Don’t fight them – just let them pass, if you want them to disappear and don’t come again.
- You are not bad or incapable because of repeating the same thoughts over and over again. It’s completely fine to think about something for 10 times – until you find a proper solution.
- You can be safe in the present moment. I promise you.
