I’ve tried to teach you how to overcome negative self-talk, as well as have shown you what self-sabotage circle looks like.
Today, I want to create a list of signs that represent low self-esteem. With a purpose to build your self-esteem and grow a healthy self image, we must first discover if we are practicing some negative self-esteem beliefs and habits.
These are common signs of low self-esteem:
- Negative or strongly critical inner dialogue. Okay, on our blog we already shared useful tips to overcome this habit. So, it’s related to those sentences you continue repeating in your head, such as: ”I’m stupid.”
- Ignoring your own achievements. Whenever you think you cannot do something, remind yourself how many times you’ve already succeeded. If you are ignoring your own life achievements, but celebrating the ones of others’, that’s a sign of low self-esteem.
- Focusing on what you haven’t done. If you are constantly focusing on what you don’t have or haven’t done, that’s not good. Rather, remind yourself of what you’ve done and what you have, so that will keep you going in the right direction, with gratitude. People who don’t practice gratitude also have higher chances of developing anxiety.
- Allowing others to take more from you than they give. On our blog, we have also shared numerous amazing tips that can help you to set healthy boundries with others.
- Taking the blame for everything that goes wrong. It is fine to take the blame when you’ve made a mistake, apologize, learn from it, and never repeat it. Life moves on and it becomes better if you practice that. Yet, if you are easily and inappropriately taking blame for everything that goes wrong, this means you have low self-esteem.
- Putting yourself down through the jokes. If everyone is, including you, making bad jokes about you and you aren’t trying to stop that, you have low self-esteem. Learn how to stand for yourself.
- Difficulty tolerating negative or constructive feedback. If critic is scary to you, it’s also a sign of a low self-image. Learn to understand feedbacks differently – ask yourself is that feedback can help you to change something for the better. Ask yourself if that criticism even has a value or is it even true. If not, you can forget about it, but don’t react. People who want to put you down will do everything to make a reaction. It’s a must to stay calm and not react.
