In the grieving process, you’ll feel anger and rage for a longer period of time. Within men, this is more common, and anger and fury can be triggered by various things and events. In this article, we will help you to learn how to manage it.
Psychologists claim that anger is actually sadness, but a sort of sadness you weren’t able to live through and understand. Since men are told not to cry from an early age, their anger phase in the grieving process is usually stronger and longer than women’s.
Let’s see how you can control anger, due to the fact that it can cause you tons of problems:
1. Counting. Good old counting to 10 always works, but if you’re having a hard time calming down, try counting to 20 or even 30. Yes, this sounds like a cliche but it actually works – try it.
2. Breathing exercises. Have you noticed that you breath shortly most of the time? It’s highly recommended to breath from your stomach because that’s naturally how people should breath. When we are angry and under tension, we tend to deep shortly. Watch out how you breath, this will instantly help you calm down your body and get rid of muscle tension and increased heartrate.
3. Meditation. Haven’t tried meditation? It can definitely help you not only to calm yourself down but also to clear your mind from many unuseful and toxic thoughts.
*Anger is when you don’t allow yourself to be sad.
4. Get active. Staying active is highly recommended for everyone, but especially for people who see that they have increased amounts of energy due to anger problems.
5. Be creative. You can get rid of rage and fury through art too. How about playing an instrument? Writing your thoughts and problems down?
6. Talk about how you feel. When you’re constantly having anger issues, you probably don’t talk about how you feel with others. You’ve buried your problems and bad emotions deep inside yourself, and now you’re like a bomb that’s going to explode. Find a person you can be open with and talk to.
*Believe in yourself – yes, you’re capable of controlling anger. Don’t think that you shouldn’t even try controlling anger because nothing will work. Believing in yourself is a huge part of learning how to control anger.
7. Ask for what you need. People who are having anger problems also don’t ask others for what they need. Remember that your needs matter. Ask others for help.
8. Think about anger management programs. If all else fails, today there are many anger management programs that are created by professionals. Whatever you decide, just don’t give up on fighting anger.
Read more about anger as a part of the grieving process. This will help you to understand yourself better and to cope effectively.
