I’ve stopped normalizing these and realized that my life has improved so much on a daily basis, not to mention long term.
- Fixing problems I didn’t create in the first place. For a very long time, I’ve tried to help everyone and it brought me nowhere. Once you stop helping them fix the problems they have created on their own, they will even become rude to you.
- Apologizing for having my own needs and setting boundaries that suit me. I’m truly tired of putting the needs of others’ in front of my own because no one does that for me.
- Feeling guilty for saying no to things I don’t want to do or don’t like. I have my own preferences and values in life I follow. I’ve built myself through years, or better said decades – I’ve worked so hard on that and won’t accept the things that are not good for me or don’t make me feel like I am my true self.
- Tolerating disrespect from others because it’s due to ”their trauma”. Yes, I can understand from where your rude behavior is coming, yet I’m not obligated to tolerate it because you have some sort of trauma.
- Ignoring negative things and red flags because you force yourself to see good in everything. Let’s be honest – those are called red flags for a reason.
- Accepting one-sided relationships. I’m done with putting effort in relationships that only use me and don’t give the same effort back.
- Laughing to hurtful comments just to keep their peace. Enough of this, too.
