What to know before your first psychotherapy

A lot of people are afraid to go to psychotherapy, mostly because they have certain disbeliefs related to it.

Some think that their psychotherapist will judge them or tell them things they don't want to hear, but the truth is that they will help you overcome numerous mental health difficulties. With a good psychotherapist, you will find new ways to overcome fears, and uncomfortable situations of daily life, as well as improve your relationships with others.

Those who are searching a professional help are usually those who have to visit psychotherapists because those around them aren't doing the same. This leads us to the conclusion that people who are going to psychotherapy are almost always self-aware and carry the problems of those who surround them.

As a bereaved parent, I always recommend that you at least try psychotherapy because it can definitely help you go through the grieving process and hard times in an easier manner.

In this article, I want to share what you can expect from your first psychotherapy because that is what most people are worried about.

First of all, know that there is nothing to be afraid of - you are going to make your life better and hard situations easier. 

1. Your first session will be about you. An expert psychotherapist will let you talk so you two can meet each other and create a strong bond of trust. 

2. There will be a lot of questions. Yes, you'll get asked tons of questions, but don't think that there is something wrong with that. Of course your therapist will want to know why you came, but they will all ask about your background, such as education, family, relationships with others, and even about your medical history. It is very important that you are 100% open with them so they can find a way to approach you and your feelings and problems.

3. Sometimes, it won't be comfortable. You will have to share your deepest feelings, worries, and life issues. It sometimes isn't pleasant, especially if you are someone who carries everything inside and barely talks to others. Yet, know that this will bring you tremendous relief.

4. You may fulfill some tests. Those will be related to depression, anxiety, or some possible personality disorders. Don't think that the therapist is a spy who is trying to get you a diagnosis. Even if you get one, that doesn't mean anything negative - you will finally understand yourself and your coping mechanisms, which will later on lead to easier problem solving, and improved relationships with others but also with yourself.

5. Talk about your goals. A therapist will want to know what you want to achieve with psychotherapy so you two can work in a proper direction and meet your goals.

6. Cry or not to cry? People are often fragile, especially in the first few sessions, and are afraid that they will uncontrollably show their feelings. Whether you cry while talking to your therapist or not, that doesn't define anything. Whatever comes to you should be expressed. There is nothing to be worried about or ashamed of.

7. You can't overshare. Some are afraid that they will overshare or tell their therapists too much. You cannot overshare with your therapist - don't hide anything from them. Know that they will also ask you about addictions.  When it comes to therapy that works, it is all about relevancy. 

8. Encourage yourself. Know why you are doing it - as said, you will create goals together with your psychotherapist. Know that sometimes it won't be easy and the road will be rocky. Yet, I am pretty sure that you will see improvement very soon.

Hope this article was helpful - you are a brave person who is ready to take your own life in your own hands and do something about it.

I am proud of you.